Tuesday, October 12, 2010

my opinion about dates

** First I want to say THANK YOU all for your sweet comments, I am happy and blessed to have that story to share and I'm more happy to know that I am in some strange way helping other people. Thank you all, I think you all encouraged me more than I encouraged you, seriously!**
So, the hubs and I, we really don't do "dates". We should, but we just don't have the time, money, strength or knowledge to do that anymore... It takes time to plan it and time away from the kids, money because heck NOTHING is free anymore and by the time you spend money on dinner, movie, sitter it's just NOT worth it to me, it takes strength after working all week and dealing with the kids to go out and do something together and also knowledge... it takes knowledge to know what the heck your going to do. We are the kind of people that do not party, we are pretty chill, we don't like going to the bar it just isn't our thing, we like honestly like to just hang out. When we were dating, we would just go eat (because it always involved food), watch movies, go parking :), hang out with friends, whatever you do when your dating... Now days we just take our kids with us wherever we go and we are fine with that becasue before we know it, we won't have little ones around.... BUT... Sunday after church, it just fell into our lap, so we had a lunch date! Y'ALL, IT WAS SO MUCH FUN!!!!!!!! I actually felt like we were dating again, we talked about US, about our future, about vacations we are planning coming up, about work, about our families (minus our kids, because we talk about them a lot anyways)... I mean it was un-interrupted time that we had not had in SO long. Then we did a little shopping, I honestly thought when walking out of the mall that we would be walking up to the hubs old mustang he use to zoom around town in, trying to impress me.... reality hit when we walked up to the family suv, but that's ok, because I am a fan of dates now... Oh I can't wait for our next one!!!
So now y'all know where I stand on dates, I completely understand why they are so important, we had fun together, we laughed, we remembered why we do love each other so much and for just a split second, I think we both thought we were still dating, but with so much more now!!!!
(sorry, I was so blinded by love I completely forgot to take a picture..ugh!)


There's No Place Like Memphis Mama said...

Haha so cute! OK I am ready to reschedule our cookout now that my family drama is over:)

Carrie @ Cottage Cozy said...

Sometimes we do "Borders (just looking no buying) and Coffee"...you DO have to be creative to not spend money...and we don't need to pay sitters anymore.

This is my first time visiting your blog and I am so enjoying browsing some of your past posts. I am having a fun "double" giveaway. I hope you might pop on over and join....I would love to have you join in!

Warmly, Carrie

Jennifer said...

Hello!!! First timer here :) I have 4 kiddos, as you know, you are a follower of my blog that I never seem to have time to update....

Anyway, I wanted to tell you about something we do with our neighbors....Once every other month I go to my neighbors house and I stay with her kids while her and her husband go out. I go over to their house, make their kids dinner, play with them, bathe them and then put them to bed. I wait (usually with my lap top) until they come home from their date...then the next month, she comes to my house and does the same for my kids so my husband and I can go out!! It works out great!! Our kids are at home, safely with another adult, they will be put to bed in their beds and wake up in their house (so we don't have to go and get them...)

The only down fall is that the kids went to bed at a decent time so guess what, they will be up at their usual time...and someone has to get up with them.

Just a thought, this doesn't have to be with a neighbor it could be with a friend who lives close by...maybe it will work out for you too!