Friday, July 22, 2011

Marriage Refs...

Today I decided to link up with Kelly's Korners SYUL since it is on the ever changing, unique but also perfect topic, Marriage.

**Have y'all ever seen the show Marriage Refs, we think it is hilarious!!!!**

This past March the hubs and I celebrated 7 years of marriage. (I'm honestly pretty proud of that, thank you very much!) Marriage is the hardest thing I have ever had to constantly work on, beside raising two boys to be sweet, kind, loving, hardworking gentlemen and let them stay boys too.

The best advice we have received on marriage and it's something we have always done and agreed with is you just NEVER mention or say the word divorce. (even though my hard head has got in the way and I've thought it, we have never ever said it or even mentioned it) Times will be difficult, you will have peaks and valleys, but you just deal with them, you never allow your mind to go to the "D" word. You always know in the back of your mind that it is just not an option for us and you deal with your problems head on, together! Sure we both can be hot tempered but luckily the older we get the less often it happens. Yes I say things to get on his nerves because I know they will, yes we have arguements about topics we can't even remember afterwards. It's just reality, it's life! Once I let go of the "perfect" marriage and life expectations I had for ourselves, I was a happier person, which in return made for a happier family.

In the beginning of our marriage, everything I didn't agree on, I let him know immediately. It caused many, many arguements just trying to make him think just like myself. Finally someone told me, "sista that aint ever gonna happen"  So I stopped trying to make him the way I wanted him to be and we put the Lord first in our marriage, since then things have been so much easier. We respect each other more and more each day and we cheer each other on in life. We honestly want nothing but the best for each other and our family!

Spending time alone is so important to us. On our anniversary this year we took a quick trip together, just us. We still talk about it all the time and say it is our favorite memory together as a couple, thus far. With every day life it is easy to get into a groove or routine. This trip allowed us both to fall in love with each other again. I remember looking at him one point on our trip, saying to myself  "I remember this feeling all too well, I never want this feeling of complete love to fade away again". Not that we ever stopped loving each other before our trip, we just did not take the time to remind each other how important we are to the other.

We are so blessed to of found each other so young. I love this man, he loves me and what works for us is to just love one another, never stray away from our Lord, respect the other and pick and choose your battles.

Oh and now that kids are around, when I see my husband playing with the kids right now... it makes me love him even more than the minute before!

HE is our world!!!

1 comment:

Richella at Imparting Grace said...

Congratulations on seven years of marriage! Your family is absolutely beautiful.